Relationship Wednesday: Honor Your Vows

I was raised that MARRIAGE is sacred and special!

For all you men/women who get the thought that the 'grass is a little greener elsewhere' (which you'll probably realize later, isn't).. show your partner a little RESPECT and leave before you hurt/scar them with cheating. And for all the men/women that didn't take those VOWS with someone, show a little Character/Self-Respect for those who have and don't go skirt'in around with someone else's husband/wife!!

As I have seen so many marriages destroyed and too many people hurt by cheating lately, I wonder what happened to people taking these vows seriously! If you don't want to be there.. LEAVE! Don't run around behind their back with someone else or be the one that their running around with... Because our character matters (or it should at least), and behaving like hormonal teenagers isn't how adults should act! ((Just Saying))

My Thoughts this Wednesday is that... If you love someone enough to take that leap, love and respect them enough not to cheat!

If you feel that your relationships not working...
     try to communicate, seek help, or go your separate ways in the best way possible...

Don't make every memory of yourself in your mates eyes be destroyed by being unfaithful.. Honor Your Vows!



*This is just my opinion, I would love to hear yours!

Relationship Wednesday: Would you marry a stranger for love?

What is the key to falling in love & having a long and successful relationship/marriage?  If there was a simple answer to this question, more relationships would last!

A few months ago Fyi, TV launched a new show, a social experiment, called "Married at First Sight"...

    .. To be honest, I thought it was the most ridiculous idea that I had ever heard!  How could complete strangers fall in love and have any chance of having a successful marriage!?

Over a few weeks leading up to the big premier I heard peoples opinions as it advertised, and decided that I wanted to watch at least one episode .. maybe it was curiosity!

With the number of dating websites that have popped up the last few years, it is obvious that many people are seeking love; but how many would actually consider binding into a legal marriage to someone they wouldn't meet until the reached the alter!?  and After 5 short weeks would they stay married or get a divorce!?

Many people showed up initially to the meeting, not knowing the full details of how this experiment would work and what they had to agree to.  It was interesting to see the reactions and surprisingly every one didn't walk out once they knew. (lol)  I don't think that I could go through with anything like that.

Among those who decided to take this big chance to find their soul mate experts tested and interviewed candidates, matching them based on many areas; and finally came up with 3 couples to use for this social experiment.. But would any of them decide to stay married after the 5 weeks or would they get a divorce?

I can't lie, after watching the 1st episode I wanted to watch the 2nd too! :)

It amazed me how these couples grew as they went from getting married, to their honeymoon, to moving in together, and finally deciding what to do at the end of the 5 weeks.

On last night's 6 month later show, it was interesting to hear their thought on the experiment; and what they believed made a successful relationship/marriage work (or not work)...

Relationships are about communication, supporting one another, being strong when the other is weak, and loving the little things in my opinion; and the couples that stayed married also pointed most of these out in the ideas on what makes it work!

Season 1 seemed to be a hit for the Fyi, TV show "Married at Fist Sight" because the are searching for individuals to participate in the next social experiment now (Singles Wanted).

What are your thoughts... What makes a relationship work? Would you consider going this route to find love?

Inspiration Tuesday: Believe in Magic?

Today I want to share with you all an inspirational quote; hoping to make this a Tuesday ritual...

"Those Who Don't Believe in Magic, Will Never Find It!" - Roald Dahl

Inspired by the words I read on a Pinterest post on the Red Band Society page, I decided to make this image and share the powerful words with you!


Life is hard, but believing that Magic exist will allow us to hopefully find our true gifts, reach goals, and live a happy and more inspired life.

Red Band Society, a new series that starts tomorrow on FOX, shows how inspiration and even happiness can be found; even in the hardest triumphs of Life!

This has inspired me to try my best to see the positive and search for the magic that will allow me to focus more on the positive; and find my true calling!

Hope you all can find your Magic too!!

*Have a great day & live Life to the fullest!

Romantic Wednesdays: "Romantic Buttons"

What are your Romantic Buttons?  What are your partners?  Do you know what they are!?

I was reading an article earlier that said "We all have Romantic Buttons, and knowing your partners Romantic Buttons could help you with a partner that is being cold and distant".

However, I think that these questions are better known 

to keep the fire burning... 

Many people aren't romantic by nature, but their partner knows this about them (I'd hope).  However, even when this isn't the persons nature, something sweet and/or out of the normal will be romantic to their partner.

Knowing the 'romantic buttons' will give you an advantage when you are trying to some them some extra love-n-care..

Simple things can make your partner melt-into-your-hands... I think would include (but not limited to):

• Sweet gestures.. little notes, texts, of something that lets them know they are your 'one', when you're not together.  
• My husband used to work out of town; so, I would always stick a note in his bag before he left.  Sometime during his trip he would find it; and it made him feel loved and miss home a little.  I think the little things like this help connect a relationship on some new levels.
• A text out of the blue that says "Thinking of you!"  (If this is something that wouldn't normally occur)
• A foot rub... I don't know about all of you, but there is nothing better than a good foot rub/massage.  It's like heaven (lol).  My husband seems to feel more relaxed and enjoy one as well.  However, this be something that you or your partner could hate.. knowing this is key! 
• Full Body massage... will leave your partner relaxed and you may even get one in return!  This is not only a relaxation tool but could also be a romantic one as well if you know their romantic buttons! 

Try to make them feel loved & wanted, in my opinion, is an important key in any relationship, but know what your partners' romantic buttons are (what turns them on, so to speak) is as well!  Yes, these things are important to know when the other is cold and distant (mad.. lol); but using them to bring you closer is never a bad idea either.. I think!!  What are you all's thoughts?

Relationship Wednesday : Communication in 2013

People are talking less and typing more these days... How does this affect communication in the relationship? 

Couples can chat during the day here and there, or when they are in the same room if they choose. 
Communication in 2013 is so different from what it was 10 years ago, we wrote letters.. now we text.

I was discussing an issue that a young lady was experiencing in her relationship, with her, and
She explained how they were having issues in a few areas and how communication has become an issue for them!

Being married for over 10 years, I have been there.. many times (lol); and if any of you have been in a relationship for any length of time, I'm sure you have to!

Its hard to take that step to start a conversation when there's an elephant in the room!

I couldn't help myself in trying to encourage her that things would get better and suggested to write her feelings down and to maybe share them with her husband.

So... for this Relationship Wednesday I wanted to share that  Communicating in 2013 can allow us to talk & flirt more to keep the friendship & fires of the relationship going, but when we are in a hard spot it can allow us to talk about our feelings without being interrupted by the other or just being easier to express through writing our thoughts and/or feelings out...

 ... if we can only take advantage of these changes and use them to better our communication within our relationships .. I think!  Thoughts?

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*How Do You Communicate in 2013 within your relationship, different than before?

   Comment Below & Share your Relationship Communication Tips with others!
   (Please, keep comments clean!)

Boy asks Santa to Make Kids Stop Bullying his Twin Sister

This is such a bitter sweet story!  Sad to see that a young girl has to deal with such ignorant behavior while trying to get an education, but so glad that she has a brother that loves her so much that he wrote to Santa to help her..

.. and so glad that celebrities can take time out of their busy lives to show support!!  Great story!!

Relationship Wednesday.. Is there Power in Touch?

Is There Power in Touch?

Personally.. I think there is an enormous amount of  Power in Touch!!  

Take a massage for intense, everyone expresses how relaxing they are; leaving with a refreshed feeling and re energized.   Right?!  (I've never had one, but everyone that I have talked to that has had one, would agree)  However, the touch from someone you love (and loves you) is very romantic and connecting.. on so many levels!

Add some romance to your relationship this week by giving your significant other a massage or a nice back/foot rub; or just simply use the power of touch to spice up the romance in your relationship!! 

Have a Happy and Romantic Wednesday...  :) 

Is Compromise 'Really' That Important?

 Lately I have been thinking about Compromising as I see many relationships that are just beginning, hanging by a thread, thriving, and also a few that are ending.  How important is compromise in a relationship?

  I am NO expert on relationships, but it is my opinion that we should Pick our Battles!

  My husband and I have had our far share of disagreements over the years, but if we argued over every little thing that we want to be right or win in ... well, we would be fussing all the time; and WHO has time for that!

 A relationship is supposed to be about having fun, being there for one another, and wanting to spend time with the other person.  (Don't get me wrong.. there is other stuff too, but just wanted to name a few)

  However, let's face facts... we are going to disagree and have to learn to compromise a little along the way; but we don't have to fight each and every thing out.. it's compromise! (It seems like all the successful relationships that I have seen have this key factor.)

  Let me be clear... I am not saying that we should let anyone run all over us, make us do things we don't feel comfortable with, or that our partners should have it their way all the time.  I AM saying.. Pick your Battles!

  Arguing over the silly things like what you're watching on TV prevent us from enjoying the moment of just being together.. Compromise by saying who ever gets the remote now has to watch what the other wants to afterwards.  Why not?  I mean, DVR it for later if you have to (I believe this is an option for many of us today)!  Getting mad, fussing, and going to bed/leaving angry isn't going to help your relationship at all, it's going to hurt it (in my opinion, that is).

  I believe that when we learn to compromise about the little things our relationship gains a unique quality.. Communication. Working together without an argument says a lot in a relationship (however, there will be one on occasion).  I believe this makes a relationship stronger for the tougher times that may be ahead.

 **So..  Is compromise 'really' that important in your relationship?
~Consider this the next time you feel an argument approaching or you need to compromise with your partner. Try talking things out and coming to a decision that you both can agree on; and see how it affects your relationship.  Let me know!! :)

Missing In Action

 Hello Readers..

I just wanted to post quickly and say that I am sorry that I have been MIA lately..

I have had a few family issues to deal with in the past weeks (months) that have required my full attention.  I am hoping that things will slow down soon and get back to normal, but I just don't know if that is still a possibility or not!

The past few weeks have really made me think about how we treasure the people in our lives, how the small things can make a huge impact, how our medical system is out of whack, and how caring for our aging parents can be challenging!  I will share some of these thoughts in my future posts, but for now I just don't think it would be such a good idea!

 But for now.. I just want you all to know I haven't dropped off the Blogging Map (lol) or missing in action any longer; and ask you to keep my family in your thought and prayers if you'd like! (& Thanks in advance)

I hope all is well with each one of you; and that you are learning something new with each given day & that you are showing those you love, just how much! :)

See ya Soon!    

 

No One's life is unjudgeable!

     In a conversation with an old friend, that I ran into a few weeks back, we caught up on each other's lives and reminisced about old times; and it was quite nice.  Looking back on the conversation that we had and I realized how easy it can be to judge another person and to be judged as well!

     I was reading the posts on my wall on FB last week and one caught my eye... a friend was ranting and raving about 'someone' (I'm not sure who), that pissed them off.  It happens to us all, but Social Media  really allows people to 'put it out there', if you know what I mean. lol

    No One's life is unjudgeable.. I know I have my faults and I'm sure that you do too!

     My neighbors  friends, family, and even myself.. do things that could be seen as negative, bad, or hurtful by someone with a different outlook on life.. but so often we judge others without looking at our own lives or the things that the person staring back at us in the mirror is doing first.   What could I change to be a better, what could you do to be?

    I read a picture quote that said to "Spread a Smile and it will Brighten another's Day!".. and I think this is so true!

    The next time I am tempted to say what someone else should be doing in their life or why I don't understand why they do some things they do.. I am going to remember to look at my life from outside the box and see what I need to fix as well.  I want to better that woman in the mirror and always remember that no one's life is unjudgeable; and I hope you will too!

     ... Hope you have an awesome day and find something new that brings you true happiness in this life.  See ya soon!

Should women think like a man in today's dating world?

Do you think that women should "Think like a Man"?

I have a lot of single friends/family and young women in my life that are just starting out in the dating world or been in it for years with no success; but things are so different in today's world vs. when I was dating!

As I sit here watching the movie, "Think Like a Man", I wonder if some women should go back to these rules in the relationship world (that used to be the normal).  Would they get hurt less?  Would they find that special someone easier?

As my daughter's get older I focus on the values that I hope I have instilled clearly over the years; because I want her to hold every boyfriend to certain standards..

Every women should require her man to respect and to treasure her values, treat her with dignity, and she should do the same (respect him and herself as well) ...

However, I wonder how much some of these this matter's in today's relationship!?  (And it's sad!)

The movie "Think Like a Man" is a comedy about four woman who are tired of meeting the wrong type of man/or the issues with the one they already have.  Each of them buy (or end up with) Steve Harvey's Book, Straight Talk; and they use it to demand respect and a relationship without intimacy; but when the men catch on, it's payback time. (lol)  Hilarious and kinda romantic all in one.. check it out if you haven't seen it yet!

The points in the movie that are being highlighted are important tips, in my opinion, in any new or existing relationship; and I think more relationships should start off and continue for a while in the 'basic getting to know and respect you phases' and hold true to the values we should stand by; and more relationships would last a little longer & be a little stronger!! .. However, this is just my opinion.  Please, let me know what you think.

Thoughts or tips?

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The most Romantic Valentine's Day

 
  Valentine's Day is the day of Romance.. but a few years ago, romance was far from my mind as I was getting dressed for my dad's funeral.  Honestly, Valentine's Day was the farthest from my mind!

  On the ride home, the car was filled with silence; and the holiday was mentioned to break the ice.  My husband apologizes for not having a gift, as do I; but we both know and understand completely and forget about it.

   The next day my hubby returns from work; and in he comes with flowers and a card. Naturally, it brings a smile to my face and love in my heart.. as it will to anyone receiving such a sweet gift.  However, I notice something familiar about some of the flowers...  they were the one's I had got from daddy's funeral.

    Seems that when he went to get my flower's he asked if they could add them in, so that they would last longer.  Awww!!  I can't explain the feelings of love that came over me that year and I can honestly say that it was the most romantic Valentine's Day that I have had.  (and the worse as well)

  As the big day arrives so people try to find the most extravagant gifts or the most popular one's for their loved one; and it definitely does bring a smile to their face and love into their heart.  But.. I think if you really want to pull on their heart strings.. do something totally thoughtful that will mean something to her in a way that she will remember forever!

   Spend some time thinking about how you can make the love of your life's Valentine's Day extra special this year!  Make them feel that you love them more than anything else on earth.. bring romance to the day.

   I think that doing something that had thoughts of love behind it, will bring romance as well.  This is why it was the most romantic Valentine's Day when my husbands kind gesture made me feel like I was loved more than anything else in the world... it had Heart added!



 

 

 

The Fake Rose

        It was the morning of Michael and Marie's 15 year Anniversary, the day started as normal, but with an extra sweet kiss and wishes for a special day.  They had made reservations at their favorite restaurant and special plans to celebrate this anniversary like no other; After all, it has been 15 wonderful years!

        Therefore, when the doorbell rings in the middle of day.. Marie is surprised to see A dozen of beautiful red roses that Michael has sent; however, one of them is Fake!

       The florist must have made a mistake, she thought to herself... until she read the the most beautiful words that made her Heart Skip a Beat....

Dear Marie,

I will love you til the last rose fades!

Love Always, 

Michael